How can you build positive relationships? I often get this question from my clients and I want to share my answer with you.
Because we learn many things in school and our upbringing, but nowhere do we learn how to build positive relationships.
While we humans are social beings. And we develop the most in relationships with other people.
Some can easily enter into relationships, while others have more difficulty with this.
Today I want to share with you one way to build positive relationships.
Because this is an art in itself.
You see, we people have different inner needs. Each situation calls for a different need to be satisfied.
For example, we want to be seen, to be heard, to be listened to, to be trusted, to be needed, to be right, to be touched, to feel valued, to be trusted, to be taken seriously,…!
Everyone is unique and everyone has their own specific needs.
But in each of us, there is one need that runs like a thread through every situation and that wants to be satisfied.
This is our child’s need that has not been fulfilled by our educators in the way we needed it back then.
For example, my strongest inner need is to be loved. I was always loved for my achievements and my results, but not for who I am as a person.
My husband’s inner need is to be approached gently. He likes people to approach him tactfully.
Some want to be seen, or to be complimented, or to be trusted, or to be encouraged, held by the hand, feel number 1, or celebrated or felt.
To build positive relationships with people, you must be able to satisfy their psychological needs.
If you can do this, you really will get friends for life!
Because everyone is human and wants to get their needs met.
If you can help people to satisfy their needs, then you also welcome people. Then you embrace them spiritually and they will trust you.
So, if you want to create genuine positive, constructive relationships with people, ask yourself, “What does the other person need?”
And try to trust and act on the first thing that comes to mind.
By doing this, you’ll become sharper over time, and with practice, you will recognize people’s inner needs more quickly.
If you can positively satisfy their needs, this energizes them and then people just want to be around you.
In this way, you contribute to someone’s well-being and you help the other person become a bit richer, as it were.
My tip is, to make a list of 5 people you love and try to ask yourself what their strongest psychological inner need is. Trust the first thing that comes to mind and try to act on it.
You are going to make a lot of people happy!
If you want to learn more about how to build a positive relationship with yourself and others so that you can improve the quality of your life and enjoy happy relationships, I invite you for a free initial consultation.
Our human soul is a giver. And to be able to give to others, we must learn how to connect with others in a positive way. Let’s talk.