The relationship with yourself is one of the most important relationships and also the longest in your life.

How you treat yourself affects all aspects of your life. This is why it’s important that you nurture this relationship and that you treat yourself lovingly.

Many of us tend to be very self-critical. Many people are very judgmental, strict, and hard on themselves. I’m sure by now that the worst words you will ever hear will come from yourself. Others will not judge you so quickly. Or if they do, that tells more about them than it does about you.

So, how can you keep a positive relationship with yourself and become your own best friend?

A short but very effective tip that I want to share with you is:

Look at your good qualities. If you have ten good qualities in your character and one which is not good, give attention to those which are good. If you have one good quality and ten bad, give attention only to the good one. 

One quick exercise which can help you in this direction is: 

write down all the good things that you do in a day. Try to write down at least ten things, for example, things you do to take care of yourself, or to take good care of others, things you do at work, or in the household, things you do for your children, your partner, your parents, or friends, … Everything counts!

And try to keep this up :)))

If you do this for at least 30 days, you’ll get done at least 300 things of which you can be proud!

At times when you don’t feel good about yourself, you can always look at this list and give yourself credit for the good things you’ve done. 

The more you can give acknowledgment to yourself, the less you will need it from others. This is a spiritual law.

And if you are not satisfied with certain things or if you realize afterward that you did something wrong, then I advise you to forgive yourself instantly. Because all the other options, such as feeling guilty, judging yourself, or punishing yourself… are just ways to hurt yourself.

If you get stuck in these patterns, you’ll lose a lot of precious energy, because this will become a huge energy leak for you.

Please know that if you’ve done something wrong, you can always learn from it and you can always fix these kinds of situations.

For example, the next time you can do things differently, you can apologize or you can step forward instead of doing a step back or you can consult with people… Everything can be fixed.

Mistakes are not mistakes if you learn from them. Mistakes are stepping stones that help you to move forward. 

We are on this planet to learn and no one does everything right, right away.

If you can develop a learning attitude and try to appreciate the good things that you do, this will save you a lot of pain in your life. And a lot of energy!

Praising yourself is very important. This is how you learn to become your own best friend and to have compassion for yourself. And in this way, your self-love and self-esteem grow. Because everything you pay attention to gets magnified.

And the more you can give to yourself, the more you can give to others.

Because we can give to others only those things that we already have in us! This is also a spiritual law.

I’m curious how this will work for you and would love to hear your feedback 🙂

I have developed a complete program on how to close all the energy leaks you potentially have (consciously or unconsciously) so that you can develop a positive relationship with yourself and others and optimally focus your energy towards creating the life you truly deserve.

Would you like to know more? Then I invite you to contact me. I would like to help you to grow exponentially in your personal strength and fully shine your light while making space to receive all the goodness life has to offer.  

Much love,