Have you ever reflected on the potency of your words and their profound impact on those around you?
Words possess an incredible creative force—they transcend mere communication and serve as powerful instruments, shaping the behaviors of others positively or negatively.
Through language, we can elicit specific responses in partners, children, friends, or colleagues, simultaneously influencing their self-image and identity.
For example, if the woman often shouts “My husband is not sociable,” very unconsciously she influences her husband to behave this way. If the husband often shouts “My wife never understands me,” he is affecting his wife’s ability to open her heart to him.
The same thing happens in the relationships with our children.
If the mother regularly says “My child never listens” in the presence of her child to third parties, she influences the child not to listen.
Or if the mother says “My boy is very shy,” the boy may be shy in the mother’s presence, but in another setting or environment, he may be very playful, spontaneous and expressive.
The real question is, is the boy really shy or is it the mother who instructs him to behave that way?
How we perceive the world is our truth, but our truth is always relative.’
We don’t perceive the absolute truth. We experience life through the filter of our beliefs, emotions, the model of the world we have built during our upbringing and within our limited beliefs and abilities.
We are also conditioned by the words and beliefs we heard during our upbringing from the people who were very close to our hearts, such as our relatives, friends and teachers.
So when we experience things negatively and then express these statements in relationships with our loved ones, we influence them to behave that way or develop in that direction.
It is therefore essential to become aware of how we use our words if we want to foster thriving relationships.
Are your words constructive or destructive? Try to reflect on this topic.
A powerful metaphor I want to share here is the example of the plants in our garden.
If you have a beautiful plant in your garden and you regularly feed it with the right ingredients, it will grow in its full power and splendor.
But if the plant does not get the right ingredients or even gets toxins, it will slowly but surely dry out.
The same goes for humans.
We humans crave love and encouragement. And we want to be acknowledged for the things we do well.
My experience shows that people who don’t receive the right kind of love and encouragement in the way they need it, cannot develop to their fullest potential.
That’s why I invite you to become aware of your words, use them to positively influence others and build their self-esteem.
Try this out and you will notice how your relationships become more vibrant, inspiring and flourishing.
And the great thing is that by giving love to others, love grows in you too!
Would you like to learn more about how you can continue to positively build yourself and your relationships?
Then let’s connect.
I am here to guide you in deepening your connection to your true essence, expanding your personal power, and contributing positively to your life, relationships, and well-being.
With love and appreciation!