In this video I speak about serving vs pleasing!

Self-expression is our birthright. All that we want from our own free will gives us energy.

To serve gives energy and joy! To please costs energy and is very tiring.

To serve means to sacrifice our own free will and do things out of love for the other person. That gives us a lot of energy and joy.

The greatest happiness that we can experience is when we can serve others out of our own free will, when we can satisfy the positive physiological inner needs of others, of course in justice and wisdom.

To please means to suppress your own free will and to follow the will of another person. This happens most of the time if you experience the other person as someone who has a higher authority than your authority. Pleasing costs energy and is very tiring.

I was very much having this pleasing behavior in my younger life. It took me a long time to understand what I truly want and what is right for me.

And in my work with people as a coach, I notice that many people struggle with this issue.

That’s my inspiration to make this video!

Thank you for watching

To your happiness,


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