Many people have the idea that there is no love for them.
Did you know that according to the statistics, more people have reported feeling disappointed on Valentine’s Day than on ANY other day or holiday of the year! More than birthdays, anniversaries or other holidays!
Maybe you have felt disappointed…like it wasn’t really what you wanted, imagined or dreamed?
Or maybe you are the one who feels like you are being unfairly blamed for the FAILURE?
It’s very common to feel this way. MORE people experience this. So, know that you are not alone.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Few people are blessed to truly enjoy a happy relationship. The knowledge we need to learn how to be happy in a relationship is very new.
Our parents didn’t have a chance, because the whole psychology is only about 150 years old.
So, we need to have a lot of compassion, for our parents, for all the people who are not happy in their relationships and also for ourselves…Because even when you are happy, you certainly make a lot of mistakes and you try to do your best, within your own capacity.
We were raised with this idea of romantic love, that we would meet the ideal partner who will make us whole and complete.
This idea no longer works. This is what makes relationships go wrong. Because many of us unconsciously have the expectation that the other has to make us happy.
People who have this expectation adore and idealize their partner, seek safety and protection by their partner and sometimes their own feet as well…
Until one day they wake up and realize that their partner can’t make their dreams true for them.
Mature people take responsibility for making themselves happy.
While many others blame their partners regularly for their own disappointments.
My husband Ton and me also went through this symbiotic phase as we pleased and adored each other. Happily we went through it.
Now we know that I am responsible for my own happiness and he is responsible for his own happiness.
We can’t heal the other. We must heal ourselves. We have to do the work. Only then we can connect with the other one out of love and wholeness. And not out of need to take or get something.
And why wait to feel love until you have the perfect relationship? This love already lives in you!
The other person is just a trigger for you to activate this love. Because you are the one who is feeling this love.
Your partner is also a mirror of some aspects in yourself that you often don’t see.
So, know if you’re not happy with your relationship, it’s about you and not the other person.
That’s the reason I want to invite you to feel the love in you. Every day in your life. Regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not.
You can reach this love in you by feeling grateful for your life, for all that your life has given you, for all that you are, for that you have and all the people who are in your life.
You can feel love for your partner, for your children or other people in your life… And you can also be in love with the sun, the water, the sea, the sky and the woods, or the mountains…
You can find a place or create a place that just makes you happy. Where you can flow in your self-expression.
Life is too short to wait for the ideal, perfect love to come.
I invite you to enjoy in your present. Now. You were created out of love and for a purpose.
Remeber, there was never anyone like you on this earth, there is no one like you now and there never will be anyone exactly as you are now.
Feel the love in you, become that love and you will notice that you will become as a magnet for the people around you.
I wish you a lot of success with this process.
If you need help to grow more love in your heart and in your life, so that you can shine from inside out, then I invite you to book a free initial consultation with me.
Love is healing. Love is for FREE. Love is GIVING. And Love finds WAYS… Always!